Safer dating

Astroluvlink.com has developed a list of rules that we strongly suggest you adhere to when meeting another Member who has advertised their details on our website. We are always telling our own children the dangers of speaking with strangers and the same rules apply to adults also. Treat each date with caution and this applies to both sexes (male and female) until you feel comfortable with each other. Remember that there is no race when it comes to meeting the right person for you. Divine timing plays a big part in the scheme of things and if you feel you are being pressurised into meeting against your will, then stick with your convictions and stand firm on your decision to meet when you are ready, and not before.

Follow our tips to “Safer Dating” and we hope that you will appreciate that we have your safety at heart. We cannot be held responsible for your safety, please read Terms and Conditions for further information. If you try to stick with the rules we have put together for your safety, then this should enable you to get the best out of your dating experiences. Please refer also to our Q & A’s of Dating where we have answered some of the most commonly asked questions on dating.

The following rules apply to both male and females:

1. We suggest that you get to know each other first of all by chatting via email and we suggest that you write down a number of questions to ask each other. We suggest that you maybe refer to questions that have been answered when you signed up for the Service to begin with, just to verify and discuss things that you have in common or not as the case may be. Do not be too keen at this stage, remain relaxed regarding the whole process and be yourself. This is the perfect time to be completely honest about you. We all have something that we feel uncomfortable about and this something may not be acceptable by the other person, so now is the time to discover whether this is the case as if this other person cannot accept you for who you are at this stage, then it is time to move on as there will be that special someone who can accept every part of you.
   
   
2. Write down a list of your top five favourite things i.e. reading, sport, places you would love to travel to and hobbies and discover what your prospective date also enjoys doing. Be realistic about the amount of time you like to spend on your interests and be honest about the amount of time you wish to spend on your relationship with your prospective future partner.
   
   
3. Remember that we cannot change a person into the person we would ideally like to be with. It is a huge mistake thinking that you can change someone or that they will change for you if they want to be with you enough. This is not a good grounding for a relationship; common ground and shared interests and objectives make for a sound and solid foundation.
   
   
4. Who knows of the saying “you must kiss so many frogs before you meet your Prince or Princess”. This is telling us that you may not fall in love with the first person you meet although this is not to say it is not impossible. Keep your expectations realistic and you will not become disappointed. There will be many characteristics that you will look for in your ideal partner. You may have already dated several people and maybe each person has one or more but not all of the characteristics you desire. The ideal person will have all if not most of the characteristics you are seeking, so be patient and the right one for you will come along eventually; we call this divine timing.
   
   
5. We are already at point 5 and you are still chatting via email or perhaps by phone at this stage. As we mentioned previously, there is no race so take your time and enjoy becoming friends with one another as this is also a sound basis for a lasting relationship. If this person feels right for you then the anticipation of meeting will be exciting for you and you should not be feeling any doubt regarding meeting.
   
   
6. Now we come to making our first date. We suggest that you meet at a Public place to start with. This could be a Pub, Restaurant, or perhaps a Café for refreshment or a bite to eat. We suggest that you set a time limit on the date of no more than 1 or 2 hours at the very most to begin with. This gives us the opportunity to leave at a set time if we feel uncomfortable. Hopefully this will not be the case however do try and stick to this set time for the sake of both individuals.
   
   
7. Always tell a friend or family member where you are going and whom you are meeting and carry your mobile phone with you so that you can be contacted or indeed so that you may call for assistance should you feel threatened in any way. If you do not have a mobile phone, then give the telephone number of the place you shall be meeting at so the person can call you to check that you have arrived safely.
   
   
8. DO NOT meet at any of the following places: your home, their home, a park, nightclub or any place where you cannot be seen or heard.
   
   
9. DO NOT drink alcohol on your first date as of course alcohol effects your decision making process and you may end up doing something you may regret later.
   
   
10. We suggest you dress casually for a first date, jeans maybe and a T-Shirt. Relax and enjoy each others company and most importantly, be yourself.
    
    
11. Keep conversation light and avoid politics, religion and sex!

For further information visit our Q & A’s of Dating page.

We hope that your first date is happy and memorable. Be happy, smile and be you!

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